Beliefs are complex structures, but they can be changed when you decide to make an effort. Especially those that limit one’s potential, is a process that can lead to significant personal growth and improved well-being.
“The difficulty comes in understanding the difference between thoughts and beliefs and how these two interrelate. The biggest mistake that I have seen is the assumption that beliefs are thoughts that you have often. While this might be true in a very general sense, beliefs are actually not your thoughts at all, they are actually a type of psychic structure that props up and aligns thoughts. A belief or belief system is a type of structure that you construct [internal and external programming] and on the structure you create your [subjective] reality through your thoughts, especially emotionally charged thoughts [thought forms]. Your beliefs are not the thoughts that you have often, your beliefs are the underlying structures that cause you to have certain thoughts often.” – John Kreiter
The beliefs you and I have about ourselves and life, especially our core beliefs, decide the quality of our thoughts, emotions, and physiology, which in turn are reflected in our behavior, choices, and actions.
Ingredients For Changing Limiting Beliefs
Self-Responsibility and Self-Ownership: this is the first step to conscious change. Self-responsibility and self-ownership are about the realisation that: “No matter what has happened, no matter whose fault this was or was not, I am 100% responsible for how I choose to handle what has happened. My thoughts, emotions, choices, and actions are my responsibility to handle. Period.
Attain Insight and Knowledge: Knowing how beliefs work, how they come to be, and how they impact you physically, emotionally, mentally, and energetically, is crucial for anyone who walks the path of learning, healing, and growth. Become conscious and aware of psychological programming (beliefs), thought forms, and how the subconscious mind works — it is worth every second invested.
Cultivate Self-Awareness and Vigilance: Become acutely aware of the beliefs that influence your life. Reflect on how they affect your thought patterns, emotions, behaviors, and actions. Make it a priority to change the beliefs that hold you back. Always question yourself and life. Don’t just assume things are true just because they “feel” true, or because someone else tells you it is true, or you believed it your whole life. You might be wrong, they might be wrong. Be open and curious.
Engage in Trauma Work: Trauma (intense emotional experiences), particularly from early childhood age 0 – 6, tends to be the root of many core limiting beliefs like: I am not good enough, I am not worthy, I am not important, I am not deserving, I am trapped, no one understands me, and many more. Modalities like EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and hypnotherapy with regression can be effective in addressing and neutralizing these beliefs by working through the trauma. The reason is these therapeutic healing modalities can target hidden traumas that we are unconscious of — not only from childhood, but also our birth, time in our mother’s womb, past lives, and ancestral lives.
Find Qualified Therapists: Getting some help doing deep inner work, is in my opinion, a must. Especially if you have to deal with heavy trauma. It’s crucial to seek out therapists who are experienced in the above-mentioned therapy modalities, and who actually address the root cause of issues (Significant Emotional Events locked in the body, mind, and Soul) instead offer only working towards temporary relief.
Learn Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP): NLP provides insights into the structure of beliefs and their impact on our lives. It also offers techniques for reprogramming the mind to replace disempowering beliefs with empowering ones. My personal favorites in this field are Richard Bandler, Tad James, and Robert Dilts. The most powerful and effective way to learn NLP is to attend a live NLP practitioner course. That gives you not only the theory, but tons of practical experience.
Study Quality Information: Books like Karl Dawson’s “Transform Your Beliefs, Transform Your Life: EFT Tapping Using Matrix Reimprinting” and “NLP – The New Technology of Achievement”, by Steve Andreas and Charles Faulkner, can offer structured approaches to understanding and transforming your belief system. There are tons of books and other resources that you can find on the topic of beliefs and how to change them.
Combine Knowledge and Action: Knowledge becomes power when we use the knowledge to take action toward change, learning, healing, and growth. When you work on changing a limiting belief – start taking action that reflects the change you are working towards. Push yourself. Be kind to yourself, but don’t let yourself off the hook too easily.
Use Affirmations, Hypnotherapy, and Guided Meditations: When used over time, these tools are powerful can rewire/reprogram the subconscious mind. Using them in conjunction with trauma therapy and inner child healing will super charge the impact.
Continuous Engaging in Inner Work: Trauma healing, inner child healing, practicing self-forgiveness, and other methods that promote deep self-reflection, learning, healing, and expansion — is a lifelong process. You’re not done after one or two sessions. Things will get easier and better with time, but you will not become free from adversity as long as you engage with other people and life.
Learn and Grow From Emotions and Beliefs: Emotions are also messengers or teachers. Why are they there? “Why am I angry at Mark all the time? Hmm…. He treats me badly, and I don’t do anything about it. I don’t stand up for myself. I need to start setting boundaries!” Just ‘letting go’ is not always the answer. First, learn why the emotions and feelings keep showing up. If they keep showing up, there is learning and growth potential there. If you take action on the message from your emotions, then those emotions will usually dissipate by themselves. Other times it is something deeper going in like traumatic memories being triggered, and then you can do some EFT or Regression to heal and evolve. When you do the inner work on healing those traumas, you get deeper self-insight from the experience. This will lead to a new level of self-awareness and expanded consciousness.
Be Patient and Persistent: Be patient with yourself, yet persistent in your practices. Celebrate small victories along the way.
Seek Support From High-Standard People: Surround yourself with a supportive community or a network of individuals who encourage your growth and can provide honest feedback, perspective, and constructive criticism. They don’t just say things to make you feel good, often constructive criticism and feedback can sting. When given on the basis of good intentions, we should take it into consideration and contemplation- Are we able to receive it without reacting emotionally to it, but responding as a conscious adult?
Be The Awakened Guardian Of Your Mind: What you feed your mind influences your life. Set boundaries for yourself. Reduce low-quality conversations, entertainment, news, time-wasting activities that drain you, etc. It is important to note that researching heavy topics like the physical, mental, and spiritual darkness which is wreaking havoc in our world — while these topics are important to be aware of and they enhance insight and understanding — it can be very taxing on our psyche and energy. That doesn’t mean that it should be avoided, but rather handle the information with awareness and care, because you can get stuck in the ‘rabbit hole’ , instead of focusing on learning, healing, and growing. Even doing inner work going into trauma can take its toll, but that doesn’t mean that it is negative to do so. When it comes to what you allow to take residence in your mind; be aware. Keep the goal of your personal and spiritual growth in focus — and use your experience to show up with authenticity, and make a positive difference in the world.
Monitor Your Progress: Keep track of your development and reflect on how your changing beliefs are impacting your life. Journaling is one way you can do this. Adjust your strategies as needed to ensure continuous growth.
Be Steadfast: Remember, changing beliefs is a journey, not a destination. It’s a continuous process that requires commitment, willingness, and courage to look within oneself and take full self-responsibility and self-ownership.
I hope this article inspired some ideas about your next step in the process of deprogramming those limiting beliefs that no one is forcing you to carry. My suggestions here are not the one way to go. They are based on my own experience and knowledge doing inner work since 2010, and working for 13 years as a therapist and coach (hypnotherapy, past life regression, NLP, and EFT). I bet there are more things to add to my list. I am still learning. I will share more on this topic in the future in the structure of a workshop, articles, EFT-tapping videos, and more. In due time.
Thank you for investing your time and attention here with me. I appreciate it.
Take good care of yourself.